Love & Submission In A Godly Marriage

The topic of “submission” of the wife to her husband in the marriage relationship is a very real hot button issue. While I am very aware of how many landmines may be detonated by briefly addressing this topic, I will risk it for the sake of those who might read this with an open heart. My intent is not to be “controversial” or “shocking” or “brazen;” my intent is to highlight the truth as revealed in the scriptures.

The ancient terminology of submission in the Bible has been distorted by today’s verbiage on the subject. So, when we read the term “submission” in scripture we need to be very deliberate to silence the voices of the “political correctness police” that rings in our ears.

“Submission” has been hijacked and redefined several different ways by our 21st Century society. The term “submission” can mean the forced subjugation of an individual by a tyrannical bully; it can be a reference to a certain psychologically twisted kinky activity; or, in the name of gender equality the term’s use is banned where it references a married couple.

First and foremost, the scriptures teach us [in regard to all of our relationships within the church] to submit to each other:

“Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.”

~ Ephesians‬ ‭5:21‬

In other words, we are not to be everybody’s tyrannical boss; we are to view others as greater in value than ourselves, and to give them the first place in line for our service.

Ephesians 5:21-33 gives specific direction for the marriage relationship: the husband is to love (to cherish with an unequaled adoration) his wife, and the wife is to “submit” to her husband.

BOOM… There goes the first landmine! The voices of the “political correctness police” are now reverberating in your ears, warning you that this “submission” to your husband will give him license to be a dictator, will lead you into subjugation and slavery, and into becoming a doormat for that pig you married!

Would you say that is a fairly accurate description of the megaphoned “voices” that are ringing in your ears?

To reiterate, scripture’s definition of submission is NOT THE SAME as society’s definition. Knowing this, let’s look at one more scripture about wives and “submission:”

“… your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. For this is the way the holy women of the past who put their hope in God used to adorn themselves. They submitted themselves to their own husbands, like Sarah, who obeyed Abraham and called him her lord. You are her daughters if you do what is right and do not give way to fear.”

~ 1 Peter‬ ‭3:4-6‬

BOOM… There goes another landmine!

Sarah used the ancient term of “lord” in reference to her husband which is like today’s term of “boss.” She voluntarily treated her husband with a respectful and a healthy elevation due him because of the responsibility of his particular place of authority. Her submission was not a psychologically twisted degradation of her own value in her own eyes; nor was it a self-inflicted punishment for being born a woman and not a man. It was instead a voluntary and holy recognition of God’s design for the marriage relationship.

I know that in one short devotional I am not able to share everything that the scriptures say in regard to “submission” in the church, and in the marriage relationship. But, one thing I can do is encourage you to pray, to ask the Lord to teach you and to show you how to be “like the holy women of the past who put their hope in God… submitted to their own husbands,” and how to no longer be ‘like the unholy women of today who refuse to put their hope in God… unsubmitted to their own husbands.’

There is nobody as beautiful as a godly woman who (1) lives in a God-defined submission to her husband, and who (2) is cherished and adored by her godly husband! Now THAT is a beautiful and a happy wife, and THAT is a husband who is more than willing to sacrifice (and even die) for his wife’s safety and protection!


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