Individuals who expect that others owe them for a lifetime, or that others perpetually owe them a shower of Roses, Resources, and Happiness [because they were at one time a victim of an illness, accident, or a crime] have instead bound their own hearts in Chains, Poverty, and Dissatisfaction.
For those who have truly experienced the trauma of being a victim and yet go on in life to have a beautiful heart that prospers and is full of joy, they are victims who have resisted the temptations of the self-pitying lifestyle of a victim’s mindset. They are those who have instead committed themselves to God:
“But You, God, see the trouble of the afflicted; You consider their grief and take it in hand. The victims commit themselves to You; You are the helper of the fatherless.”
~ Psalm 10:14
Here are some samples of the “logic” that supports a person’s dangerous [to self and relationships] self-pitying lifestyle of a victim’s mindset:
🔸 If I am a victim, then I have a form of total disability, because my total ability in an area of life was stolen by illness or others. Therefore, others who are blessed with undeserved health and freedom to do most anything they want to are morally obligated to exert their abilities to compensate for my disability.
🔸 If I am a victim, then I am unable to provide for myself, because I have had my resources stolen. Therefore, others who have control over resources are morally obligated to share their resources with me.
🔸 If I am a victim, then I am no longer capable of personal development, because my capability to change and grow has been stolen from me. Therefore, all others are morally required to accommodate all my imperfections to any degree on a perpetual basis.
🔸 If I am a victim, then I am incapable of being happy, because I have been robbed of my reasons to be happy. Therefore, others are morally obligated to accommodate my disability of unhappiness by walking on egg shells around me, doing anything and everything that I want so it might possibly prompt happiness and joy in my life.
The victim mindset is so predictable, and yet we can be so blind to it in our own life. As we look at ourselves in the mirror, and gaze deep within our own eyes, let’s pray that God will help us to see ourselves for what we really are like. Do we have a rubber stamped Victim’s Mindset that follows this pattern, or have we committed ourselves to the care of God?
“If I am a victim, then I am __________________________, because ________________________. Therefore, all others are morally obligated to ________________________ for me.”
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