To use a bread analogy, a marriage relationship between a husband and a wife is like a Bakery that produces what we will call The Bread of Love. The Bread of Love has two recipes that are used in the bakery of their marriage, the wife has her favorite flavor to consume, and the husband has his own favorite flavor to consume. Each bakes the Bread of Love for the other, both recipes have the same ingredients but the measure of each ingredient is a little different.
“… each [husband] must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.”
~ Ephesians 5:33
The woman in the marriage is designed by God to enjoy and to be best nourished by a certain flavored recipe of the Bread of Love that is made for her by her husband. Her favorite recipe for her Bread of Love is the “Cherished Adoration” offered to her by him. While each spouse’s love for the other both have all the same ingredients, she especially responds to the extra measure of being cherished and adored as an individual, as a woman, as a daughter of God, and as a wife.
The man in the marriage is designed by God to enjoy and to be best nourished by a certain flavored recipe of the Bread of Love that is made for him by his wife. His favorite recipe for his Bread of Love is the “Sincere Respect” offered to him by her. Again, while each spouse’s love for the other both have all the same ingredients, he especially responds to the extra measure of being sincerely respected as an individual, as a man, as a man of God, and as a husband.
The love of each spouse is to flow freely and is not to be withheld until it has been somehow earned or is considered to have been deserved. A marriage commitment is a vow between a husband and a wife to love one another unconditionally. If one spouse breaks the trust of the other, the trust should not then be withheld until some arbitrary “scales of justice” or the “scales of feelings” have been rebalanced by good deeds and penitence.
Christ loves us unconditionally, and He does not withhold His Bread of Love (and His Bread of Life!) from us until be have “worked” our way back into His good feelings and His graces. We are instructed to love our spouse in the same way that Christ loves the church, and that means baking our spouse’s favorite flavored Bread of Love day-in and day-out with absolute consistency in quality — the BEST quality!
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