What does it take for a person to be welcomed into your heart?
Is your heart protected by a “combination lock,” where a person cannot access your heart until they fulfill a complex combination of prerequisites, like: possessing certain character traits; a superb and unique personality; a select type of humor; participates in a particular social group; has financial assets or income in a high-level percentile of the population… is your complex combination getting longer and longer?
Quite often the complexity of the heart’s combination lock is an indicator of how much hurt a person has experienced in life. Each person is different and the measure of one is not always the measure of another. However, there is the principle of heart-hurt and soul-pain leading to a locked heart that is practically impossible to gain access.
The church in Corinth was exhibiting this kind of lock on their hearts as well. Paul wrote to them, affirming that he and the others in ministry with him had not hurt them. He pleaded with them to open their hearts just as he had done, for a mutually edifying and fruitful heart-to-heart relationship.
“We have spoken freely to you, Corinthians, and opened wide our hearts to you. We are not withholding our affection from you, but you are withholding yours from us. As a fair exchange… open wide your hearts also.”
~ 2 Corinthians 6:11-13
Even marriages, after years of trials and unforgiveness that piles up, each spouse might have locked each other out. Oh sure, they might say that their heart is accessible, but they have created such a complex combination of prerequisites that access is in reality impossible.
The Song of Solomon addresses a simple situation where one spouse, after being absent, tries to gain access to the other, but due to the long delay in finally opening the door, the spouse left the scene.
“My beloved thrust his hand through the latch-opening; my heart began to pound for him. I arose to open for my beloved… I opened for my beloved, but my beloved had left; he was gone. My heart sank at his departure. I looked for him but did not find him. I called him but he did not answer.”
~ Song of Solomon 5:4-6
How complex is your heart’s combination lock? Reset it today to something simple and basic, based on wisdom and not out of hurt and fear. As for your spouse, give them a key and anytime they draw near to your heart, quickly swing wide the door of your heart to them before they even need to use their key.
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