The Adrenaline of Relational Conflict

Do you have a loved one who seems to always be in the midst of a relational crisis with some or all of those around them? (Or, maybe you are that person that is in constant crisis?)

It is possible that your loved one is an “Adrenaline Junkie,” someone who is in constant search of situations (consciously or subconsciously) that will trigger their own brain and body to release adrenaline into their system.

More commonly the Adrenaline Junkies we might hear about are those who go skydiving, bungee jumping, or engage in other risky activities. The videos of their adventures that are broadcast in the media are quite often very popular because their audience members themselves (like me) often have some adrenaline release triggered in their own bodies just by viewing their risky activities.

Adrenaline is a powerful body-produced hormone that has great benefits and pleasurable effects. It’s release into our system should be managed by each person through living in godliness and wisdom. However, as with most anything in life, it can become highly abused and become an addiction to which we can become enslaved.

Many of the “works of the flesh” listed in the scriptures involves the abuse of our body’s ability to trigger the release of adrenaline into our system. Adrenaline in and of itself is a very good God-designed and God-given hormone for our body’s functions and enjoyment, but when we mismanage its use we can become addicted and enslaved by it. It is this ungodly mismanagement and abuse of adrenaline that can be referred to as “works of the flesh.”

“So I say, walk by the Spirit, and you will not gratify the desires of the flesh. For the flesh desires what is contrary to the Spirit, and the Spirit what is contrary to the flesh. They are in conflict with each other, so that you are not to do whatever you want.

… The acts of the flesh are obvious: sexual immorality, impurity and debauchery; idolatry and witchcraft; hatred, discord, jealousy, fits of rage, selfish ambition, dissensions, factions and envy; drunkenness, orgies, and the like.

I warn you, as I did before, that those who live like this will not inherit the kingdom of God.”

‭~ Galatians‬ ‭5:16-21‬

As for conflicts in relationships, most everyone does not consciously create conflict for the purpose of an adrenaline rush. While other factors are often involved too, things like an illicit romantic affair, being intensely argumentative, secretive gambling, and other vices that are relationship stressors that one “falls into” usually has at its core a desire to “feel alive again,” which usually translates to a subconscious craving for an “adrenaline fix.”

A marriage relationship where a couple does not “feel alive” basically comes down to the lack of either spouse triggering any adrenaline release in the other, like they did early in their relationship. Let’s remember, adrenaline is good for a marriage, if it is triggered in agreement with scriptural wisdom, and not by means of conflict.

We would be wise to consciously discern the true reason behind any conflict that arises in our own life, or the life of a loved-one. A heart that is sincerely surrendered to Christ will be willing to see the truth, regardless of what it might truly be… even if He reveals a “relational conflict adrenaline junkie.”


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