As human beings, we are far from perfect. Our entire lifespan should include a diligent effort to be in a never ending, and always progressing, transformation process that each day takes us a step closer to becoming like the perfect One, Jesus.
One of our imperfections tends to be our development of different protocols for our relationships of differing levels of intimacy. We may treat strangers one way, friends, another way, relatives yet another way, immediate family members another different way, and then we might even have a very unique manner in our spousal relationship.
For example, a person might treat strangers and friends with a tremendous thoughtfulness, a happy countenance, and a real giving spirit; and yet with their immediate family exhibit extreme self-centeredness, an angry disposition, and a very stingy spirit that hardly even cares for the needs of their family.
Or, a couple might become very close and very loving, deciding to get married and build a life together. However, on their honeymoon one of them begins to exhibit a completely different protocol in their relationship, one that is just plain ugly in every sense of the word; they are hardly recognizable by their actions, attitudes, and manners.
These kinds of inconsistencies based on the various levels of relationships should not be allowed by us in our own lives. The spirit in which we treat every person should be the same: The Holy Spirit. More specifically, we should treat every person in accordance with our genuine and sincere response to the life changing ministry of the Holy Spirit. This transformed character is referred to as The Fruit of the Holy Spirit:
“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law.
Those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires. Since we live by the Spirit, let us keep in step with the Spirit. Let us not become conceited, provoking and envying each other.”
~ Galatians 5:22-26
It is quite often very difficult for us to measure our own inconsistencies in our treatment of others, especially when it comes to our family relationships. Are we treating our own family members with an equal graciousness and kindness that we treat strangers or friends? Do we have Relationship Equality at heart? Ask a family member… and be ready to receive their perspective with a gracious, sincere, and humble heart.
#PastorsTip #Galatians5 #FruitOfTheSpirit #Relationships #Protocols #Intimacy